You’re starting to get bored with your girlfriend; excitement is gone. She’s probably too much into you while you’re slowly drifting away. It’s starting to be difficult to be around her. Some of us might even feel rejected and even avoid sex.
If you’re not happy or satisfied with whom you are with, if the passion is gone and you’re just staying because the situation is comfortable (happy to share the rent?): get out of there as soon as you can, for the sake of both of you.
Easier said than done of course, you know it’s going to be hurtful if you’ve ever cared just a tiny bit. There are hundreds of ways to be found on the Internet to leave your girlfriend but only a few are worth taking the time to write about.
- THE HARD WAY OUT: TELLING HER UPFRONT
However you do it, text, phone call or face to face: it’s going to hurt. It’s the most efficient way of breaking up: it’s quick and it hurts.
The deeper you’re in the relationship, the least she’s expecting it: the harder it’s going to be. I once broke up a serious relationship giving no prior signs. Well at least she didn’t see them but they were obvious: less sex, fewer nice things said, less calling or texting. I think she was just too deep into it to even notice it. I broke up at 8pm (which was already a big mistake, she was living in my flat and there was no way she could get back to her parent’s house before the next morning). I could see that her world was shattering, she cried the entire night: probably one of the worse night I’ve ever had. I later heard from a friend that she thought I was the man of her life: I should have given more warning signs. She left the next day with the first train out of the city, never heard from her again. She’s actually the only ex-girlfriend that I don’t talk to anymore. Most of my previous serious relationships I still see (or fuck) once in a while.
I have broken most of my relationships the hard way, of course it didn’t take me any time to recover but it was hard for my ex-girlfriends (although I never knew how it went for the one that I mentioned above).
- THE SMART WAY OUT: GETTING HER TO DUMP YOU
That’s my favorite strategy: it always works. It doesn’t mean that I always use it but it’s definitely the best solution for a smooth relationship killer. This is the perfect way to both get out of this relationship unmarked, how? By killing the love!
Try to find the behaviors, actions that would get her to go crazy, try to ruin what’s making your relationship special: she will hate you for it. If she loves cuddling after sex, turn on the sports channel after sex and sit on the sofa. If she loves your cooking, stop cooking and order pizza and eat junk food every time you’re with her. If she hates anal and finds it disgusting, insist on doing it! If she loves your manners, fart in bed and disrespect her mother. If she digs your appearance, grow a month old beard, forget to shower, wear the clothes you wore as a teenager. Make what was special about you disappear. If you were the perfect gentlemen: flirt with her sister or best friend. A friend of mine, very Christian, used to go to church every Sunday morning with his girlfriend, that’s the special bound they used to have: God. He stopped going, told her that he lost faith. And boom she was gone within a month. Ok he had to put aside the fact that he mistreated God for a few weeks, maybe the price to be paid?
You might consider it to be coward but it’s the best way to end a relationship. Less people get hurt right? You also end up with a good story to tell your friends. Downsize: it might take months to set up and you do need to get out of your comfort zone and become a great actor. If you’re not a good liar/manipulator forget about it.
- THE EASY WAY OUT: DISAPPEARING FROM THE RADAR
I have done this in the past: stop answering calls, texts, mails and avoiding her at all costs hoping that she will understand on her own what’s happening. It’s probably the easiest way out for you but it has consequences. Your soon to be ex will of course suffer from this situation and might ruin your reputation especially if you have friends in common. I find this solution immature and risky. If you are in a serious relationship, consider other options.
- THE “YOU’RE A CHEATER” WAY OUT: INTRODUCE HER TO A PICK-UP ARTIST
If you have a pick-up artist (PUA) in your entourage that can basically get any girl that he wants… you might have found a solution for ending your relationship.
The principle is the following: get your girlfriend and the friend/PUA to meet and talk to each other through whatever suits you best: dinner, party etc. Of course the PUA must be aware of the situation and agree with the situation. If your girlfriend is attractive and he’s a true PUA he will probably agree.
If the PUA is really good he’s going to seduce her and they might end up fucking. “Out of remorse” the PUA will confess and you will leave and hate your girlfriend for it. You will have the perfect excuse never to talk to her again.
It’s very manipulative and mean but it works. Not very effective if you want happiness for your current girlfriend…
I have never done it myself; I’m too protective of my girlfriend/ex to even consider it. Some of my PUA friends do it quite often.
- THE WORSE WAY OUT: STAYING IN THE RELATIONSHIP
Some men believe that relationships go through ups and downs; that it’s normal and try to find a way to make it work. That’s very honorable but I strongly believe that when you start looking a little too much at other women and find yourself quite often under other women’s sheets: it’s time to end it.
If you feel that your relationship should end, find a way to end it. Do not stay just to keep your girlfriend happy or because you’re frightened that you won’t find someone that suits your better. Men tend to stick around to milk the sex to the last drop or rationalize the relationship: “I’m never going to find a prettier girl”, “we’ve gone through so many things together”; “we share the mortgage” etc.
If you feel it’s time to end it (and you’ve thought it through), just end it; don’t hold on to something that is not passionate anymore. And you know what? You have perfectly valid ways to leave your girlfriend in this article.
The freedom you get from being single again is the best feeling. It’s finally time to get laid with the first average looking girl that you will find, party and drink all week-end. You have more time for yourself, you can make your decisions on your own… until you eventually find someone that you actually like.
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